🧠💬 Psychology & Parenting: Why Your Kid Isn't Just "Being Difficult" (And What to Do Instead) 👶🤯
By: Dr. Jenn Merthe-Grayson
Let’s be real—parenting is hard. 😅 One moment your child is a sweet snuggle bug 🥹 and the next they’re screaming because their banana broke in half 🍌💔. Sound familiar?
Here’s the thing: most “challenging” behavior isn’t about disobedience. It’s about development—and understanding what’s happening inside your child’s brain can completely change how you respond. 💡🧠
1. Their Brain is Under Construction 👷♀️🧱
Kids aren’t mini adults. Their prefrontal cortex—the part responsible for logic, impulse control, and emotional regulation—isn’t fully developed until their mid-20s! 😮 So when your 4-year-old melts down over the blue cup 🟦🥤, it’s not manipulation—it’s a brain trying (and failing) to regulate big feelings.
Psychologist Tip: Instead of reacting with “You’re overreacting!” try, “That really upset you, huh?” 🫶 Emotional validation helps build their internal self-regulation tools.
2. Behavior = Communication 📢🧩
When kids act out, they’re trying to tell us something—but without the words. 😶🌫️ Whether it’s hunger 😋, tiredness 🥱, overstimulation 🎆, or anxiety 😟, behavior is the body’s way of sending an SOS.
Psychologist Tip: Ask yourself, “What is my child trying to say with this behavior?” before jumping to punishment. 🕵️♀️✨
3. Your Regulation Teaches Theirs 😮💨➡️🧘
Your nervous system talks to your child’s—every single day. If you’re frequently anxious, reactive, or overwhelmed, they absorb that energy like a sponge. 🧽 But when you model calm, they learn what calm feels like.
Psychologist Tip: Take your own “parenting time-outs.” 🧘♂️ Regulate you, then co-regulate them.
4. Connection Over Correction 🤝💖
You don’t have to be a “perfect” parent. 🙅♀️ What kids need most is a secure connection. When they feel seen and safe, they’re more likely to listen, cooperate, and thrive.
Psychologist Tip: Daily “special time” (even 10 minutes) of undivided attention can do wonders. Play 🧩, giggle 🤪, be present. That’s what they’ll remember.
5. You’re Doing Better Than You Think 💪👏
If you’re reading this, you care deeply—and that makes you a great parent already. 💛 Give yourself grace, take deep breaths, and remember: your child doesn’t need perfection. They need you. 💕
Parenting is psychology in motion. 👣💫 With a little insight into the brain and a lot of patience (and maybe coffee ☕️), you can navigate the chaos with compassion, connection, and confidence.
🌿 5 Reasons You May Not Want to Use Your Insurance for Therapy
By: Dr. Jenn M.G.
When people start looking for a therapist, one of the first questions is:
“Do you take my insurance?” 🤔
It’s a reasonable question—but using insurance for therapy isn’t always the best option. In fact, many people are choosing to pay privately for their mental health care. Here are 5 important reasons why that might be the right move for you 👇
💼 1. Your Diagnosis Becomes Part of Your Medical Record
To use insurance, a therapist must assign you a mental health diagnosis 🧠—even if you're just dealing with stress or a tough life season. That diagnosis becomes part of your permanent medical file 🗂️, which could affect life insurance applications or certain careers later on.
🧾 2. Insurance Companies Dictate the Terms
Insurance providers decide what’s “medically necessary.” That means they can limit the number of sessions ⏳, require evidence of progress 📈, or even stop covering your care when they decide it’s enough.
Therapy isn’t one-size-fits-all—your care plan shouldn’t be either.
🔐 3. Your Privacy Is Compromised
Using insurance often means less privacy. Third-party payers may request your diagnosis and even session notes 📋 to approve care. If you're working through personal, sensitive topics, this lack of confidentiality can feel invasive. 😕
🔍 4. The Best Therapist for You May Be Out-of-Network
Many experienced therapists—especially those who specialize in trauma, couples therapy, or performance psychology—🏅don’t accept insurance. Sticking only to in-network providers may mean missing out on a therapist who’s an ideal fit for your needs.
🛋️ 5. You Get More Flexibility and Freedom
Private-pay therapy means no diagnosis requirements, no session limits, and no bureaucratic red tape. You and your therapist decide what works best—for you, your goals, and your timeline. 💬💖
It’s therapy with total freedom.
🧠 Final Thoughts
While insurance can lower the cost upfront, it often comes with hidden trade-offs—less privacy, more restrictions, and less control over your healing. For many, investing in private therapy offers a more personalized and empowering experience.
If you're exploring your options, I’m happy to talk through what private-pay therapy might look like for you. Your growth and well-being are worth the investment. 🌱
Why Individual Therapy Can Be Life-Changing (And How to Know If It’s Time to Start)
By: Dr. Jennifer Merthe-Grayson, Licensed Clinical Psychologist serving Ohio
Are you feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or disconnected—from others or even from yourself? You’re not alone—and you don’t have to figure it all out on your own either. Individual therapy offers a safe, supportive, and confidential space to understand yourself more deeply, untangle complex emotions, and create meaningful change.
As a licensed clinical psychologist, I specialize in helping adults navigate life’s most personal challenges—from anxiety, depression, and burnout to relationship struggles, identity development, and past trauma. Therapy isn’t just for “when things fall apart”—it’s also for when you’re ready to grow, gain clarity, and invest in your own mental wellness.
What is Individual Therapy?
Individual therapy is a one-on-one collaboration between you and a trained psychologist. Together, we explore what’s getting in the way of your peace or progress—whether that’s self-doubt, unresolved grief, perfectionism, people-pleasing, or something else entirely. The process is grounded in empathy, curiosity, and science-backed strategies tailored to your unique goals.
Common Reasons People Seek Individual Therapy:
You’re feeling anxious, stressed, or emotionally drained
You’re navigating a life transition—divorce, parenting, career changes
You struggle with confidence, identity, or self-worth
You’re carrying unresolved pain from past experiences
You want to break harmful patterns in relationships or behavior
You simply want to better understand yourself and grow
What Makes Therapy with Me Different
As a psychologist, I combine evidence-based interventions with a warm, human-centered approach. That means we’ll go deeper than surface-level coping strategies—we’ll get to the why behind your patterns and help you build new pathways forward. My therapeutic style is collaborative, empowering, and nonjudgmental. I bring my full attention, clinical training, and genuine care to every session.
I draw from modalities like:
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
Humanistic and strength-based approaches
Trauma-informed care
Positive Psychology
No two clients are the same, and your therapy shouldn’t be either.
When Is the Right Time to Start?
There’s no “perfect” time to begin therapy—only a brave one. If you’ve been carrying the weight of things alone for too long, or you’re ready to understand yourself on a deeper level, now may be the right moment.
Therapy is not about fixing what’s broken. It’s about reclaiming your wholeness.
Ready to Begin?
I offer individual therapy sessions via secure telehealth. Whether you're seeking relief, clarity, or personal growth, I’m here to support you.