Thriving Through Positive Psychology: How the PERMA Model Can Boost Your Well-Being
By Dr. Jennifer Grayson | May 24, 2025
When life feels overwhelming, it’s easy to believe that peace of mind means eliminating all stress. But the truth is, stress is a part of being human. Positive psychology doesn’t aim to erase stress—it helps us build the emotional tools to navigate life with more meaning, resilience, and joy.
At its heart, positive psychology is the scientific study of what makes life most worth living. Instead of focusing on what's wrong, it invites us to explore our strengths, cultivate joy, and grow from surviving to truly thriving.
One powerful framework from positive psychology is the PERMA model, developed by Dr. Martin Seligman. This model outlines five core elements that support lasting well-being. Let’s take a closer look—and explore simple ways you can begin weaving PERMA into your daily life.
P – Positive Emotion
Feeling good isn't trivial—it’s vital. Experiencing positive emotions like gratitude, hope, and joy helps us broaden our perspective and feel more empowered to take on new challenges.
Try this: Start a simple gratitude practice. Each day, write down one thing (or person) you’re grateful for. A quick note in your phone or a small journal is all it takes.
E – Engagement
This is about being fully absorbed in an activity—what psychologists call a “flow state.” When we’re deeply engaged, our minds are calm, focused, and present.
Try this: Reconnect with a hobby that energizes you. Ask yourself, “What do I notice in myself when I’m doing this?” Let that awareness guide you to more of what fills you up.
R – Relationships
Humans are wired for connection. Strong, healthy relationships are essential to our emotional well-being, helping us buffer stress and feel supported.
Try this: Reach out to someone you care about—just to say hi, share appreciation, or make plans. Ask yourself, “What’s one small thing I can do today to nurture a connection?”
M – Meaning
A meaningful life is one connected to something larger than ourselves. Whether it’s family, community, spirituality, or a cause, meaning helps anchor us through life’s highs and lows.
Try this: Volunteer your time, lend a hand to a friend, or reflect on how your daily work contributes to something bigger. Purpose doesn’t have to be grand—it just needs to matter to you.
A – Accomplishment
Working toward goals—big or small—boosts our confidence and gives us a sense of direction. Accomplishment fuels growth and reminds us that we are capable of change.
Try this: Set a SMART goal (specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound) that excites you. Celebrate progress along the way—every step counts.
Putting It All Together
The PERMA model isn’t a to-do list—it’s a lens through which to view your life. By intentionally incorporating these five pillars—Positive Emotion, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishment—you begin to build a life filled with more connection, purpose, and vitality.
Want to explore where you are with the PERMA model?
👉 Take the Self-Scoring PERMA Scale